Friday, September 26, 2014

My new collar

Clyde and I hit a rough patch over the summer regarding our dynamic. There wasn't much consistency and it left me feeling slightly rebellious and bratty and above all..... confused. We had many conversations about what was happening and how to get back on track. I think we both had different ideas about which direction to go. It was important to both of us for me to step back and let him lead us in the way he chooses.

I am proud to say that since I have done that, he has stepped up in a major way. He is leading our family down a path that feels very meant to be.

He is in control and I couldn't be happier.

We recently celebrated our 15 the wedding anniversary so it was a very sweet moment when he presented me with my new collar that he placed on my neck. We talked about what it meant to each of us and pledged our commitment to each other and our dynamic.

I'm not sure where this journey will take us next but I know that I have never felt more complete and more loved than I do having his collar around my neck. I feel very honored to wear this and know that I am owned by a man who loves me with all his being. Its a wonderful feeling that I will always treasure.

I find myself at different points throughout the day touching my collar and it centers me and bring a peace to my heart that is indescribable.

Its safe to say that we are back to where we want to be and having fun once again.

Thursday, September 11, 2014

How often do you have sex?

I was speaking with a friend recently and as it often happens with women, our conversation turned to sex. She was surprised to learn that Clyde and I have such an active sex life after all these years.  She admited that hers is considerably less but it got me thinking.... How often do most married couples have sex?

From everything I've read on the subject, of course, it varies greatly depending on age, kids, health, number of years married... etc. Some couples have very active sex lives while others feel lucky to get it even a couple times a year. This blew my mind. A couple times a year??

I've never fully appreciated the frequency of our sex until this very moment. Maybe I took it for granted. I'll be the first to admit that Clyde and I have always had a very active sex life. Even from day one there has been a strong sexual chemistry between us. Through kids and hard, stressful times we've always had sex at least 4 times a week, on a good week.... Daily.

Of course there are times when we become too tired or preoccupied to get down and dirty but sexual intimicy has always been a priority in our relationship.

As best i can figure out from researching online, most married couples have sex, on average, a few times a month. So me being curious, I thought I would pose this question to my spanky friends here in blogland.

So I ask, how often do you have sex?

No judgment here, just blatant curiosity. Please feel free to share as much or as little on this subject as you would like.

As it stands now, Clyde and I have had no sex, of any kind, for 5 days and I'm going crazy!  My kitty has a mind of her own and she's been left unattended for too long.

Wednesday, September 3, 2014


Have you ever been plugged just before a long motorcycle ride? I had the pleasure of that experience today. And...... mmmm it was exciting!

The vibrations.

The bumps and dips along the road.

Pressing my boobs against his back.

The occasional reach around.

The rev of the engine.

The look on his face as he checked to see that I was enjoying myself.

It was an experience I won't soon forget and one I hope to have more often.

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