Tuesday, July 1, 2014

The challenge

Clyde and I have always had a lot of sex. Early on in our marriage we did it multiple times a day. There has been a long standing record of 5 times in one day. Over the years this has become less frequent. I recently issued Clyde the challenge of beating our old record.

Let's just say he rose to the occasion and we had a lot of fun! It went a little something like this....

#1- I slip into bed at about 4 am after having some drinks with a girlfriend. I scoot up next to a sleeping Clyde and begin to snuggle and rub. In no time at all he is hard as a rock and ready for me. He climbed on top of me and started fucking me missionary before he turned me over and took me from behind. It was a great way to end an awesome day. And we had an audience of one watching us have sex but that's another post. So hot!

#2- The next morning, we were ready to go again. He bent me over the side of the bed and took me from behind again while I held my Hitachi. It was just a quickie but oh so good!

#3- Our flirtatious wrestling match gets a little to real as I am hooded and held down for a rough and visious fuck. He was a very naughty boy whispering filthy things in my ear when I can't see or move. It was heavenly!

#4- After all the sexing, I was in need of a shower. As the hot water washes over my body and I relax, the door opens. Clyde takes me by the hand and leads me to the bed where he has a towel laid out. I am dripping wet and feel him spread some lube on my backside. He enters me anally, very slowly. He alternates between smacking my ass and thrusting forcefully into me. It was glorious!

#5- The day is coming to a close and there's one thing missing. Clyde decided i need a good spanking. His belt is removed while I assume the position. I'm not sure how many times he strikes me but it is just pure perfection. He gave me a nice warmup and I visited the edges of subspace. I was so wet and turned on that he just had to get a taste for himself.

#6- We lie in bed at the end of the day. I am deliciously sore and slightly bruised but completely sated. Since we were looking to break our previous record, we had time for one more romp. At this point I am swollen and sensitive so I opt to give him one hell of a blowjob to say my thanks. Somehow he had a nice big load waiting to be swallowed.

It was the best day!!!

Thursday, June 26, 2014

Bonnie Gets Spanked Turns 1

I'm proud to say that one year ago (and one month, because I'm a procrastinator) I wrote my first post!
What a year it has been.
Clyde and I have grown and changed and done things that I would have never imagined just a few years ago.
This journey has brought a new life to our relationship and brought us closer than ever before.

I have met and gotten to know some of the most wonderfully interesting and unique people here with what seems to be one common goal, to better ourselves and our relationships.
I have also had the privilege of making some great friends. (You know who you are) I am forever changed because of this blogging community.

I cant say thank you enough to those of you that have read, commented, lurked, emailed and helped to make this blog a success!

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

My year in numbers:
90 posts (published)
80,000 pageviews

Cheers my friends! Here's to many more! 

ps. Stick around. I've got some great stories coming your way!

Friday, May 9, 2014

Orgasmic meditation

Anyone ever heard of this?

I always love to see or learn about something new. This is something I stumbled across while on YouTube.

Orgasmic meditation.

What is Orgasmic Meditation?

Orgasmic Meditation (OM) is a practice in which one partner gently strokes the other partner’s clitoris for 15 minutes.
OM consists of a defined sequences of steps, and is a goalless practice – the only job for both partners is to feel.
It’s deliberate and structured with repeatable results. It’s a meditation, equally powerful for both partners – only the object of focus is the clitoris.
Practitioners experience benefits similar to other mindfulness practices such as sitting meditation, as well as the well-known health benefits associated with orgasm.
It’s profound, yet simple and you can have it whether you are single or coupled.

It certainly looks interesting and I want to try! I just had to share!

There's a 10 minute video about OMing that you can watch here.

Sunday, May 4, 2014


Clyde has been away for the weekend and won't be home until late tonight. So as I sit here watching This is 40 and eagerly anticipating clydes return,  I thought I would share a little exchange between us on his long drive home.

Our conversation went like this......

I need to be fucked

When I get home, I'm going to beat you and fuck you so hard.

I look forward to it Sir

*Clyde sends pic of his hard on*

Oh my...... I want to put that in my mouth

Is your mouth watering?

MMMMM yes, so is my kitty

Go put your plug in

Yes Sir

Send me  a picture of the plug and kitty

*Plug inserted and picture sent*

She better be shaved smooth when I get home

Yes Sir. Will you buy me a pretty plug with a jewel or tail for when I have to send you pictures please?

Yes Kitty, I will

*an hour later*

You may take it out now

Thank you Sir

You're welcome. Now I want to see your bald pussy peeking out of the red slut dress.

Grrrr..... Yes Sir (I hate that red dress)

*picture sent*

Now a full view

*picture sent*

I cant wait to get home!

Only one more hour to go.

Monday, April 28, 2014

I've been nominated

A big thank you goes out to Sarah at Clear as mud for nominating me for the Leibster Award. It is an award to encourage new-ish bloggers with under 1,000 followers. (Yep, that's me.)

Here are the rules:
1. Thank the person who nominated you and post a link to their blog on your blog.

2. Display the award on your blog-- by including it in your post and / or displaying it using a "widget" or "gadget".

3. Answer 11 questions about yourself which will be provided to you by the person who nominated you.

4. Provide 11 random facts about yourself.

5. Nominate 5 to 11 blogs you feel deserve this award, who have less than 1000 followers. (Note that you can ask the blog owner this since not all blogs display the widget that lets readers know this information.

6. Create a new list of questions for the blogger to answer.

7. List these rules on your post. Once you have written and published it, you then have to :

8. Inform people/blogs that you nominated that they have been nominated for the Liebster Award and provide a link for them to your post so they can learn about it (they might not have heard of it!)

Sarah had some interesting questions for me.

 What is your idea of a perfect way to spend the day? Money is no object.  My perfect day would have to be spent on a beach. I'm thinking of a lounge chair covered with an umbrella, a cold alcoholic beverage and a good book with Clyde by my side as the kids play in the sand. Perfection!

2. Favorite spanking implement? Definitely our ping pong paddle with the flogger in a close second.

3. Favorite spanking position? Any position as long as im getting spanked.....Otk but it doesn't happen often enough.

4Favorite vacation spot?  Destin, FL  I have so many great memories there.

5. Favorite type of food? I love chicken fajitas.

6. What do you snack on?  Wine, (That counts right?!)

7. First place you had sex? In my bed at my parents house.

8. Kinkiest/strangest/coolest place you had sex? There's too many to choose just one.  On the beach, cornfields, in a pool, an amusement park, in the woods, secluded island at the lake, the middle of a dark street... the list goes on. We are quite adventurous.

9. Beach or Mountains? Beach. The mountains are beautiful but definitely beach.

10. What kind of shoes are you wearing right now?  I'm barefoot.

11. Person or persons, blogger or not, dead or alive, you admire most? My Mom. She's just a great person who has taught me so much.

And of course, then I had to come up with 11 random facts about myself so here goes...

1. I lived in Hawaii as a kid and don't remember any of it. Dammit!

2. I hate to have my belly button touched. My children and Clyde know this so it has become their worst form of torture for me.

3. I love to watch movies but rarely watch TV.

4. I'm always reading something but don't like to read more than one book at a time. I also can't quit a book once Ive started, no matter how bad it is.

5. I'm not religious.

6. I've never broken a bone.

7.  My toes are painted a pretty turquoise color right now but that will soon change.

8.  I wish I had more friends but I have a hard time trusting women.

9. My parents have been married for 38 years and still going strong. They are the perfect role models for a great marriage.

10. I love all animals but I am not a cat person.

11. One day I hope to be that crazy old lady who says exactly what's on my mind.

So now that I have been nominated, I get the privilege of passing this along and nominating some of my favorite bloggers.  I really do enjoy reading all the blogs that I follow and I had a hard time choosing. There are so many bloggers that I would love to nominate but I am limited.

1. Little Girl at Master's Submissive Little Girl
2. Fiona at Sir Q and Me
3. Lil s at Big D lil s Life
4. His Slut at Thoughts from his slut
5. Del Fonte at A Place of Fancies

6. Scarlet at Scarlet's Submission

Here are my questions for them to answer.

1. What's your favorite TV show?
2. Do you like to travel and what's your favorite place to visit?
3. Name your favorite alcoholic beverage.
4. What is your biggest pet peeve?
5.  Do you have any hobbies?
6.  Have you ever used any non sexual items for a sexual purpose?
7. What's your favorite kink?
8. Have you met any other bloggers in person? Who?
9. Do you have a guilty pleasure?
10. Where is the strangest/kinkiest/most awesome place you've had sex?
11. What do you wear to bed?

I hope that you all enjoy this.

Thanks again Sarah!

Saturday, April 19, 2014

What was I frustrated about?

Its been a crazy morning. The kids are out of school and they have friends over. My house is a mess. I'm running around like a chicken with my head cut off just trying to keep up with it all. My emotions are getting the best of me and reaching a boiling point.

Clyde walks in for lunch and sees the frustration written all over my face. He gives me a sympathetic smile and lifts his foot. Its a silent order to take his shoes off. I kneel in front of him and do just that, then return to the dishes.

He asks how my day is going and I'm off. He sits and listens patiently while I vent all my frustrations. When I've finished my bitching, he leaves the room and I hear him tell the kids in a very strict, you better do as I say tone, that they must clean up. When he returns, I'm told to follow him.

The water is turned off the dishes abandoned. They can wait. I see the look in his eye and I know my day is about to get a whole lot better.

I follow quietly behind him to the living room in the back of the house, far away from any little ears. He stands back and allows me to enter before him as he turns and locks the door behind us. I see the paddle in his hand and my heart skips a beat as a mischievous smile spreads across his face.

Clyde takes my hand and leads me over to the chair. I assume the position and wait for that first strike.

Starting off slowly, he paddles over my clothing as I moan and squirm a bit. The slow burn begins and my bottoms are pulled down but not off. With my panties bunched around my thighs, he increases the intensity of the spanks. I squirm and moan and I can no longer hold my position. My ass is on FIRE!

I hear the shuffling of clothing and the tell tale sign of a zipper being pulled down. I have to restist the temptation look behind me as he slowly sinks into me.

When we are finished, he looks me in my eyes and asks, "Feel better?"

"Oh yes, I'm feeling much better now"

I have a permanent smile on my face for the rest of the day. This is why I love him!

Thursday, April 17, 2014

Trying again

Clyde and I have hit a road block. I'm still not exactly sure when it happened or why but our dynamic changed. I suppose you could say, life has gotten in the way.

We have discovered that a lot of what we wanted to implement into our daily life was just not possible while raising a family. It certainly isn't easy to redefine our relationship after many, many years together.  So we kind of took a break from D/s. It wasn't a mutual decision, he just stopped, which left me feeling very confused. I still remained submissive in my actions but I no longer felt it in my heart. We went back to just being our normal, vanilla selves with some hot and satisfying sex thrown in for good measure.

The loss of our dynamic was hard for me to deal with. Of course, I was still getting spanked from time to time, but vanilla had crept into our life in a big way. I  still wanted more from him but as time has gone on, I've done a lot of thinking.

Maybe I pushed him too hard too fast. He told me that he started to feel as though I didn't like him for who he was and tried too hard change him instead of accepting him as he is.

Nothing could be further from the truth. I love him completely and unconditionally. I have for nearly my entire life. Clyde is a great husband and he never leaves any doubt in my mind about what he feels for me. He may not always say the words I want to hear but its always there, in his actions. He takes very good care of our family and I'm a lucky woman to have such a good man.

When we started spanking 2 years ago, it came really easily for us and we both found something that fulfilled a need within ourselves. My submission went hand in hand with becoming a spanked wife. It felt very natural for me but I felt I had to put in a lot of effort to bring out his dominant side when I should have let him find it on his own.

I had an idea in my head about what a dominant should be like and I tried to make him into that. Looking back now, I may not have always done that in a positive way.  I wanted him to lead and I wanted him to be in control but I never truly let him have the reins.

I see now how that must have been very confusing for him. I had spent years trying to defy his control and possession. I had been told all my life how unhealthy it was in a relationship. I felt it made me look weak to allow him so much power.When I discovered ttwd and read real life stories here in the land of blogs, I was instantly inspired and those walls came down.   After doing a lot of research into D/s, I felt he was a natural Dom and would take to it easily.  

Of course, some aspects he did but others he struggled with. I didn't allow him time to really find his footing naturally. We talked a lot in the beginning about what we (I) wanted from this. Bless him, he was along for the ride.

Somewhere along the way we became comfortable in ttwd but I still wanted more. Instead of savoring what we had accomplished together, I pushed. We had fallen in love with each other in a whole new way. The spark was back, the passion is back and we communicate better than we ever have before. So,why did I have to push?

Well I guess it all comes back to the image I had in my head. That, along with comparing our relations to those I read about was detrimental to our dynamic.

So after taking a step back and reexamining ttwd, we have come to the conclusion that it has become a very important part of us. He misses it just as much as I do. He likes how cherished my submission has made him feel and he certainly doesn't want to loose that and neither do I. We are too invested in this way of life for us to go back to where we were. It has been very eye opening for both of us. I'm even to the point now that I'm very grateful that he pulled back because it allowed me to see the error of my ways.

I have let go of the Dom in my head and learned to just be more in the moment and content with what we have. I realize he can't lead if I'm telling him which way to go.

Very slowly D/s is creeping back into our lives. We are taking baby steps to assure  that we are both getting what we need from this thing we do.

It feels like a new beginning, a second chance, and that is very exciting. My Mater has begun to reemerge and I have vowed not to force our path but allow him to steer us around the roadblock and take us in the direction we need to go.

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