Wednesday, May 29, 2013


We have been at ttwd for about 6 months now.

 I started by dropping little hints about a spanking and about trying new things to spice up our sex life. He never turned me down or acted like I was weird which I am thankful for. I don't think he really ever thought about seriously spanking me before I brought it up. Of course there have always been a well placed playful swat from time to time but the first time I  actually laid across the bed and took a spanking from him I knew we had breathed new life into our sex. It turned both of us on so much that what ensued was some of the best sex of my life. Since then it has been a constant part of our relationship.

I gave up complete control to Clyde. I became more submissive than ever before. It changed me in ways I cannot even describe. It has done wonders for our relationship. We have always had a great relationship that people around us have admired but ttwd had added a whole new dynamic.

Clyde has certainly found his groove. He enjoys the spanking as much as I do. We have also opened the door to new sexual experiences and lots of communication about what we like. We have a "toy box" that we are always looking forward to adding to. I have noticed differences in Clyde too.

He and I will hear something on tv or while out and give eachother that knowing glance. You know those things that spankos pickup on but the rest of the vanilla world wouldn't give a second thought about. I have also seen Clyde pick up ordinary objects at the store swat them on his hand and smile. It warms me to know that he is as into this as I am. We are travelling this road together.

I have also brought up the idea of DD.  He seemed a little skeptical at first. I have been paitent with him and let that sink in without much mention of it from me. I thought he had forgoten about  it until I started getting playful threats.  I have yet to receive a punishment and we haven't set any rules.

 I know that Clyde is growing more used to his role. He makes little comments in my ear about how he is the boss and gives me that devilish smile.  All this being said I think he lacks the confidence in deciding what would result in a punishment. I have done some things this past week that, if I were in charge, would need to be addressed.

Reasons why I should be punished:

1.)  I didn't wash your work uniforms..... Even when  you gave me all weekend and you had to stay up late on Sunday evening to wash them.
2.)  I didn't get that thing you asked me to pick up.....  Not only did I tell you I would, but I had no intention of asking my sister to  stop while we were out.
3.)  I tried to control your orgasm....... I was in the moment and didn't want it to end. Ladies I'm sure you can relate. lol
4.)  I tried to tell you how to spank me...... "owww  not so hard."  "Quit hitting the same spot."
5.)  I broke the #1 rule you gave me about this blog..... It wasn't intentional and won't happen again.

Maybe giving him this list will give him the clarity to see that he has power to hold me accountable. I do not wish for a punishment but believe maybe I deserve one.

Of course it is up to him how my actions are handled.


Monday, May 27, 2013

When Clyde flexes his dom muscle


He walks in the bedroom with no shirt on and closes the door behind him. Then he locks it and glances at me. I pretend not to notice and keep my eyes on my book. He walks past me and goes into my closet. I smile to myself because I know what he is doing. He selecting the toys he wants to use on me. When he came out I didn't get a chance to see what was in his hand because he flipped me right over on my stomach. He loves to catch me off guard like that and take control. He reached around me and unbuttons my pants and slides them down my thighs. Just half way.

Before I can think..... SMACK SMACK SMACK! He's got he leather paddle and he's not wasting time. His hand is on my back holding me down and hes standing behind me.   SMACK SMACK SMACK on the other cheek. There are no words spoken from him so I just bury my face in my arms and let go.

I bought this for him as part of a Christmas spanking kit.

It is such a turn on for me to know that he will assert his dominance anytime he wants.




About Me

Who am I?

 I'm just a girl in my early 30s trying to figure things out. I'm a wife, daughter, grand daughter, sister, Aunt, niece and most importantly, I'm a mother. I have three great children. Everyday I'm scared that I'm screwing them up. There are no rules or guidelines for parenthood.   Despite all the mistakes I've made along the way they are happy, social, smart kids who know they are loved. I am very proud of them. I figure if they are still alive at the end of the day I've done my job.

All that mothering aside, I am a woman with needs. Clyde and I both need sex and intimacy regularly to help our love thrive. Because of that we have sex nearly everyday. If  I am really lucky I'll get it twice. I love sex.

I have been thinking about  where I want to take this blog and how much of myself I want to put out there. I purposefully started this blog with spanking in my relationship because that is what I enjoy most at the moment. But, there is so much more to me than that. I want a place that I can put it all out there and not be judged.

But one thing that you need to know about me is that I love to laugh.

Who are you?


Wednesday, May 22, 2013

To Be Spanking Honest.....

 I love to be spanked. Not always while it happening. I mean, it hurts.  But I love the way I feel after. My head is quiet. My heart is open. I'm unbelievably turned on and wet.

Spanking is something I find incredibly erotic. I am naturally submissive and spanking has helped me realize that. It has opened a part of myself that I didn't know I had. It makes me vulnerable. I feel   closer to my husband because of this shared secret of ours.

I like to see bruises on my ass. It makes me feel strong and tough. It reminds me who is boss.

I like to try different implements. I like to try different positions. I like to try and be quiet and not react during. Which I usually fail miserably at.

To sum up, I just like to be spanked and spanked often. 
Please sir, may I have another?

Sunday, May 19, 2013

Weekend Blessings

We have a very blessed life. I'm so grateful for all the good things that have been happening in my life. I started a new job that I am certain will bring bigger and better things for us. My children are all healthy and thriving. Also Clyde and I have stopped smoking. That's right. One whole month without a cigarette. Thank you. Thank you. We are just in a really good place in our life and our relationship.

 This weekend has been wonderful. Saturday we spent the day at the park with Clydes family. The weather was great. There was good food and lots of laughs. We took some great pictures and the kids had a blast playing with their cousins. When the party ended we took our daughters to spend the night at grandma and grandpas. With the house to ourselves I received one hell of a spanking and some awesome sex followed.

Sunday morning I woke up to Clyde pushing his hand between my legs eager to play again. I tried to push him away. "No, let me sleep."  He was persistent though. Pretty soon I was glad he didn't listen to me. As I dosed off in the afterglow of our love making, Clyde brought me breakfast in bed. So far a great start to the day. I certainly had a big smile on my face. Since it was another beautiful day we decided to go for a ride on his motorcycle. I love riding with him.  My legs and arms wrapped around him holding on tight. Being so close to him its like we are in our own little bubble.

Right outside the small town we live in, its nothing but farm land and back roads for miles and miles. Perfect for cruising.  As we would come to a four-way stop Clyde would lean towards me and say "Which way do you want to go ?"  I would just point and off we go. We visited some new places and went through some towns we had never even heard of. As we made a slow right turn we saw a beautiful 30 acre property for sale. Tree lined and horses grazing, it looked like heaven.  Clyde leans to me and says
  "Look at that."
"Wow. I love all the trees."
"Hey and look theres a creek running through it."
"Yeah and look at that old barn that be a good workshop for you. "
"Maybe we should buy it."
"You never know we could be millionaires."

(We bought lottery tickets for the Saturday drawing that we still haven't checked the numbers for. Wish us luck. ) As we laughed and drove away, I thought how fun it was to daydream about owning a place like that someday. A little ways down the road we stopped to stretch our legs and I snapped this pic of our view.


I will finish this wonderful weekend by doing the mundane tasks that all moms do. Grocery shopping, laundry, and making sure the kids have everything ready for their school day on Monday. With my batteries recharged I'm ready to face another week of the daily grind.

I hope you're weekend was as enjoyable as mine.

Friday, May 17, 2013

Quiet Spanking implements

What is it about spanking that makes me so emotional?  I used to get through the days without needing spanking or spinning out of control. I've realized I need his dominance. When I don't feel it for even a couple of days my mind starts to wander. I begin to have doubts.  My head fills with so much nonsense. I become distant and cranky. In the beginning  Clyde (and myself) didn't know what to make of this. I didn't even know how to explain the way I was feeling.  I just knew that I had so much emotion inside of me.  It was only then I understood what "maintenance"  was about. Clyde has gotten pretty good at recognizing the sings and giving me what I need.

I had grown quite used to receiving spankings every few days or so. We both enjoy it and it often leads to more pleasurable things. We always waited for our children to be in bed or at least occupied with something on the other side of the house.  I thought we had been pretty careful until one day I stepped out of my room after a spanking and came face to face with my daughter. "What was that noise?" she says.  "It sounded like Daddy was hitting you with something." I panicked and didn't know how to respond.  You can imagine my horror. I told her not to worry, Daddy was just moving some stuff around. I know. Not very believable.  Well that night Clyde and I had a long talk about this and decided no more spankings when the kids are home. The last thing I would want is my daughters thinking their daddy beats me. I figured as long as she never heard it again it wouldn't be an issue and she'd forget. So far, this seems to be true. She has not asked about it since. 

The problem with this is I can only get my spankings on the weekends when the kids visit with grandma and grandpa. You see, this is not enough for us.  I have come to rely on spanking as a way of release.  Clyde couldn't wrap his head around that until I told him one day to think of it like a lemon. It's got all that juice trapped inside and you have to twist and squeeze and hurt the lemon for all that juicy goodness to come out. The outcome is undeniable.  Clyde has noticed the difference in my mood afterward. I feel so much lighter after a good paddling.  I started thinking there has got to be a quieter way to do this.  I did some research for quiet spanking implements. Clint and Chelsea at Learning DD had some great suggestions for this.

 1.) Spatula with holes                                   
 2.) Wooden Spoon
 3.) A Switch

4.) Tilt wand for window blinds

5.) Loopy Johnny

6.) Cane

My personal favorite is the tilt wand.  As I type it sits atop our dresser like a forgotten part. Only we know better.


NewlyRed Game

I have been seeing this around blogland and thought this would be a great way for y'all to get to know us better. I hope you enjoy this as much as we did. My answers are in red and his in blue.

Questions for the Wife

What would your husband say was the last thing you did, that made him give you 'the look" ?

We both had a hard time answering this one. We are not a true Dd couple. Its more of a playful thing between us. I do get a look when I say airhead things. Which is often.

What part of his body does your husband discuss the most?

His hair. (He always thinks he needs a haircut.)
My hair.

If I could burn one ( non implement ) possession of my husbands and get off Scott free it would be?

his  phone. (sometimes it gets more attention than I do)
my workboots

 What shape would shape would your HoH say your backside is? 1) an apple 2) a pear 3) a pancake 4) never noticed...too distracted

 2. a pear

2. a pear (but a lovely ripe one)

Nothing makes me sassier than ( blank)

 Not getting sex when I want it.

Walking on a freshly mopped floor with dirty work boots.  YES!

If my family knew we were in a Dd relationship they would  A) be mortified B) be intrigued and ask questions C) High five my HoH, and tell him/her it was about time !

Her family A.    My family B.

 My family A.   His family B and maybe a few C.

When my husband does (blank) I wish I could spank my mother in law!

When he asks me to "tickle" his back every night before bed.

Asking to tickle my back

When making whoopee, my husband's theme song should be A) I Will Survive B) Dancing with Myself C) Wake Me Up Before You Go Go D) Shook Me All Night Long

A. (sometimes I just cant't get enough.)

None of the above.... Rocky theme song "Eye of the Tiger"

If (blank) was an Olympic sport, my husband would take the gold.

 Fixing things. He can fix anything. Even if it's not broke.

Hustlin  (making money)

Two words that best describe my husband are _______ and _________.

Driven and ambitious

Tough and manly

 Questions for the Husbands

What should your wife's theme song be?

Crazy Bitch by Buck Cherry
Fastest Girl in Town by Miranda Lambert  ( I love country music)

Finish this sentence, even before ttwd I wanted to spank my wife when she did (blank)

Got in my OCD mood and just wouldn't stop cleaning. 
Anytime she's behind the wheel.

Never in my wildest dreams would I have thought a (blank) would be something I'd spank with.

Wand from the window blinds (there could be a whole other post on this alone)
Wand from the window blinds


My wife is so adorable when she ( blanks)

Argues with him ( ha ha don't I wish)
Snorts while laughing

If my wife never makes (blank) again for dinner, it would be too soon.

Fried cube steak ( Our first night in our first apartment I wanted to make this for him, well lets just say the fire department  had to come.)
Anything from a box

Pick a bird to represent your wife.  What type of bird do you see yourself as?

Dove for her and chicken hawk for myself (you know the little one from the Foghorn Leghorn cartoons)
Dove for myself and an eagle for him

 When I give my wife the 'look' often I am thinking (blank)

You crazy woman.

When I get the look I'm thinking  "Oh Shit"

The two words that sum up my wife are _______ and _______.

Loving and procrastination
caring and loyal

If there was NO chance of getting caught, where is one place you would like to make whoopee?

We've been caught in all those places.

Ok maybe we haven't been caught in all those places but we have been pretty creative and daring with locations.  You name it, we've probably been there done that.

Aside from her bottom, what is your wife's greatest asset?

Her heart
My smile

As you can see a lot of our answers are the same. I think that means we are pretty in sync with eachother.  They say opposites attract, well not in my case.  We couldn't be more alike if we tried.  I love that. It's like looking in a mirror.


Wednesday, May 15, 2013

Yep, I'm a spanko...

Hello everyone in blogland.  I have been a lurker for quite some time now. I have finally talked my husband into allowing me to try my hand at blogging.  So I would like to say "Welcome".  Please feel free to leave me comments, ask questions or just lurk. 

I guess that I should start by telling you all a little about myself.  My name is Bonnie and my husband name is Clyde. (What do you think? Too cheesy?)   We have been married for 13 years. He is the boss. Always has been. I think I have probably always been submissive to him.  Pretty much since the day we got married.  I didn't have a word for it but I knew it worked for us.  He is just the take charge kind of man. The "do as I say" kind of man.  Well I eventually got smart and quit fighting him and have given all the control to Clyde. He is a great husband and I couldn't have picked a better man.  I love him madly. OK.  I'll stop there because I could go on all day about him.

Over the last year I have gone through some personal changes. What I mean by that is I had a sexual awakening. (Gosh that sounds so corny but I don't have another word for it)  Nevertheless, I found my inner slut and let her loose on my poor unsuspecting Clyde.  At first he loved it.  This was such a big change from who I had been over the last several years.  Then I became a lot to keep up with. I mean he's only one man and I was completely insatiable.  Which did cause some problems for us but now I believe we are starting to find the balance between kinky sex and raising a family.

I introduced spanking into our relationship.  I asked for it. Not in a DD way, just to be spanked and spanked often.  Yep, I'm a spanko. I love it!  Turns out Clyde loves it too.  Adding this dynamic into our relationship has changed us in so many ways over the last several months.
So I hope that you will get comfy and visit with me often as I tell you about our journey with TTWD.

My mom always told me I have an interesting story.  Maybe this blog will allow me to share it with perfect strangers who just might understand me.

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